If you’ve listened to my blogs over the last few months, you know that I’ve partnered with Cross Care Ministries to lead groups of folks through the healing process that’s needed after experiencing some sort of loss.

I was speaking with a good friend of mine who is in one of my current Journey Tools groups about what his reaction would be toward God is his wife died.

He brought the concept up and shared, rather emotionally, about how angry he would be at God for taking her from him.

This is a very common reaction that plays right into the enemy’s tactics.

The enemy accuses God to us as often as he can in order to undermine our faith in His love and goodness.

So, how do we counter this tactic?

There are several things that we need to think and do.

First, we need to look at God through the lens of Scripture instead of the lens of our circumstances. 

God’s Word is the only Source of Truth.

Looking at God through any other lens will create distortions and lead to deception.

Second, we need to consciously practice gratitude. 

One of the key lessons I learned in caring for my parents when they were on hospice is that every day is a gift from God.

Being grateful for each day knowing that it could be their last, made me appreciate them more.

Third, we need to unhook from people as our need meeters and rest and receive the Life of Jesus as we abide in Him each day.

He is our only constant.

People are here to reinforce what God pours into us, and that’s it.

No one is guaranteed tomorrow.

For each one of us, God has ordained the number of our days, so appreciate every one of them and practice appreciating each other.

One of the most common battles we face after losing a loved one is waged with regret.

It’s a monster seeking to rob us of peace and joy by pumping ‘would of’s, could of’s and should of’s’ through our minds.

If you intentionally practice appreciating your loved ones and the Lord chooses to call one of them home to Him, releasing them to Him and processing the grief happens much faster.

So, beloved, make every day count by appreciating your loved ones!


Robyn Henning

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